This article is dealing with some empirical and phenomenological aspects of questions in situations of assistance, specially in therapeutical relations and in the pastoral dialogue. The asking for help itself evokes difficulties. In our culture assistance is a favour, not a right of every one who is in need. Asking questions in genera], asking for help particularly points to a situation of dependency, that strengthens the ideology of favour: this can only be exploded by a philosophy of the rights of the person who needs help. After having explored some problems related to the questions of the client, in particular the asking for the therapist himself in transferential love, something is raid about existential questions with philosophical and religious impact. The therapist must be frustrating his client, net only by `refusing' the transferential love, but also by refusing to give a direct response to questions about the sense of life and about the own `being' of the client. Not responding to a lot of questions asked by the client becomes a therapeutic meaning: the end of assistance must be that the client can help himself, i.e. to find his own solutions for his own problems and to bear a life in which the questions will never be completely answered. But also the one who has to give professional help must ask many questions. After having analysed some problems given with the interview, attention is paid to the questions the therapist puts to himself in reaction to the sayings and doings of his client. One of the conclusions is that both client and therapist are subject to the genesis of sense in the situation of assistance: no one has a monopoly to truth, both have to wait till truth brakes through. At the end of he article is shown, that questioning is not only an activity by which something is asked, but also something is asked of someone: their antropological meaning lies in the fact that they are a touchstone for the disponibility of the one to whom the question is adressed. Questions make not only possible that the things appear as they are, but also that the one to whom the question is adressed can show who he is.